strangewreck:

1. Be realistic about each other.

Don’t try to turn ur partner into something he or she is not. Let’s face it, guys-there’s only 1 angelina jolie in the world, and even she has had her implants removed! Give ur gal a break and understand that her physical appearance is NOT going to change overnite with the help treatments. And ladies, Brad Pitt has already been taken, so u’re gonna have to do with what ur guy is like! Chill out, love each other for what u are. There is more to ur partner than what meets the eye.

2. Always talk things out.

Now guys, I know this is not ur fave pastime or mode of resolving issues, but u know what? This works with the gals. Don’t make assumptions about each other’s feelings. Learn to xpress urself better so that ur partner undrstands what u’re angry about, or hurt about, or even happy about! When u stop talking to each other from the heart, it’s the beginning of the end.

3. Do stuff together.

Make an effort to do things together. Do some sports or involve urselves in some shared activities; something both of u enjoy or are interested in. It could be as simple as watching movies together, or jus strolling hand-in-hand down Orchard Road. Watch soccer with him once in a while though the green patch on TV puts u to sleep in 3 seconds. And guys, do give in if ur gal asks for another day at window-shopping, rather than suggest that she go out with her girlfriends for “that sort of activities” instead. If u’re spending more time with ur friends rather than with ur partner, it’s a warning sign that u’re drifting apart!

4. Meet each other halfway.

If he agrees to throw out that rotten T-shirt with the “The_Rock” print, u shouldn’t kick up much of a fuss if he asks u to keep ur room tidy. There’s gotta be a little giving and taking in a relationship, so learn to meet each other halfway.

5.Show ur love

Buy her flowers or candy or perfume everynow and then, even if u have been together for 5years. It’s wonderful to continue showing someone that u care for him or her. Cook him a special meal, paint him a Valentine’s Day card. Knit him mini-socks he can’t wear ( like for decoration purposes => ), buy him a packet of milk for breakfast, or pack his wardrobe for him…so he knows u can still be romantic and loving despite having been together for quite a while.

6. Respect each other.

Stop making jokes about her hair or skin, or whatever it is u love to laugh at. Ask urself if she thinks if its funny. And if he has an inferiority complex about his height, stop ogling at tall guys and make him feel worse! Love is about respecting each other’s feelings and being sensitive to each other at all times.

7. Bury the past.

Stop bringing up the past. Gals..don’t bring up the happy things about u and ur ex to ur guy, it would jus make him jealous or unhappy. And guys, don’t talk about the happy times that u had with ur ex or mention about her in ur every other sentence as it would make ur gal feel un-happy and she might think that u saying all this b’cos u are gonna g et back with ur ex or not interested in her anymore.

8. Sit on ur jealousy.

All of us go thru’ spells of insecurity at the beginning of the relationship, but don’t translate that insecurity into jealousy. If u’re gonna go through ur partner’s mail and cupboard, and eavesdropping on conversations, u know something is wrong - with u!!! Jealousy is like a poison that slowly spreads thru’ the relationship before finally kil ling it. Trust ur partner; love has to have trust in it.

9. Keep ur commitments to each other.

If ur partner is standing u up all the time and cancelling dates and breaking promises, u need to talk! If u’re in a relationship, make ur partner ur priority and don’t disappoint them if u can help it. It’s really terrible when someone promises to take u to dinner, and then calls to cancel it. Don’t make promises u can’t keep. If ur partner starts to feel that he/she is not important enough to u, u may jus lose him/her.

10. Be honest.

Honesty is not scowling at how awful she looks first thing in the morning, or telling him that he has the biceps of a fly! When we say “be honest”, we mean expressing ur feelings clearly, not being bitingly cruel. When u’re hurt, say so, and when u’re angry, tell him/her, w/o getting hysterical. If u can’t be honest with ur partner, who can u be honest with? Love is also about honesty, and a relationship where no honesty exists probably isn’t worth it!

* Found this somewhere.

I have stepped off the deep end but I am climbing back up and climbing higher than ever before. I started going to Connect with Jenny and it is a college bible study that I have really enjoyed going to and learning from. I have not and do not agree with everything that we have talked about but one thing is true I have been thirsting for God more than ever lately. And I have been wanting to live a better life for Him and I have been prayer, not like I should be but, I have been praying and seeking Him like never before. I have been praying for him to mold my heart to be more like Him and I have been praying that He change my life and I have been praying for Him to make me love Him with my whole heart and I have been praying for him to just take over my whole mind body heart and soul and this morning I prayed for the first time in my life and I meant it. I actually meant it when I said “Change me God.”

This morning I was talking to Carly and I asked her how it went last night when Nathan was speaking to them and I asked her what were some of the key points she came away with and when she answered me I didn’t expect the answer to blow me away but it did and she simply said “Trust God.” What she said didn’t hit me until I was on my way home and I realized I was driving in silence (if you know me at all you know I always have the radio on unless I am talking to someone and even then I usually just turn it down) and I was talking to God and I started to just shed tears and I have never literally cried for God. I have cried while praying but I haven’t cried because I wanted God. I cried because I was upset about something completely meaningless compared to what I should have been crying about and I knew I was having that moment where it finally registered to me where God finally registered to me and I just told him to change me I asked him to change me and I told Him I wanted to love Him with all my heart and not just a part of it and I told Him that I wanted to trust Him completely and I told Him. I can’t say that I am going to be perfect and I can’t say that I won’t mess up and that some days I may not be as pumped as the day before but I can tell you I am going to try my hardest and I can tell you that I am ready for this and that I want this very much.

It is very hard to expose something like this because it is outside of my comfort zone but I don’t want to have a “comfort zone” anymore and to get out of that zone I know I have to post this for everyone who is interested to read and this is the first step I have to take to get out of that zone even as hard as it is to do this. Sharing my more personal feelings with everyone and telling everyone I cried is not something I like to do and is very uncomfortable but I don’t care anymore about what people say and what people think because this is my life and I am going to live it to the fullest for Him.

“There is nothing like Your love”